Image borrowed from Floss & Mischief– an awesome place for trendy needlework patterns
Sorry folks, but I’m taking a day off from Maker’s Monday to talk about resolutions. I’m sure that there are still one or two of you out there that are still looking for your photos for the hand embroidered portrait tutorial anyway. Right? As I alluded to last Thursday, I’ve had a hard time trying to decide where to set my focus for 2015. Then, I read this interesting article by author James Clear. In it, he talks about forgetting goals and focusing on systems and how goal setting can actually rob us of our happiness- when we don’t succeed we fail. By creating systems we create a new way of life. I particularly liked this piece:
“I was training at the gym last week and I was doing my second-to-last set of clean and jerks. When I hit that rep, I felt a small twinge in my leg. It wasn’t painful or an injury, just a sign of fatigue near the end of my workout. For a minute or two, I thought about doing my final set. Then, I reminded myself that I plan to do this for the rest of my life and decided to call it a day.
In a situation like the one above, a goal-based mentality will tell you to finish the workout and reach your goal. […] Of course, I know that if I never miss a workout, then I will lift bigger weights in the long-run. And that’s why systems are more valuable than goals. Goals are about the short-term result. Systems are about the long-term process. In the end, process always wins. ” James Clear
I’m still fine tuning what my systems look like, but ideally what I would like to see myself focusing on for 2015 is:
*Continue to make reading a priority. If I had to set a number on it I would again like to average 2 books per month with 3-4 of those being classics. I would particularly like to tackle Grapes of Wrath once and for all (I’ve only started 3 times now…). I’m starting off the new year with Pride & Prejudice mostly so that I don’t look like such a poser when I get my new Kindle cover:
Kindle cover from Marston Bindery on Etsy. Find their shop HERE!
Isn’t it awesome? My Kindle will be going with me everywhere so that I can spend time reading while I wait rather than mindlessly trolling social media. I want to continue to make room for poetry.
*Bring my family & home back to the forefront. Holey Socks Art has been so successful since launching just over a year ago. It has exceeded my expectations and is utterly fabulous, however, for me it has been stealing more time than I like from my family and from my house. I want to keep the amount of energy it requires in check. I am going to get strict about my daily cleaning list and prioritize housework first thing (eat that frog!). I’m setting a ceiling on how many custom embroidered portraits I’m going to do. I’m paring down my Etsy shop and no longer taking custom button orders. There will be no work while the kids are home; work will not take up the time I have with my husband.
* I want to make health a priority. I want to take time for myself to build a stronger, healthier body. I recently received a Veggetti for Christmas so this is a great place to start. I’ve also taken up morning yoga in my kitchen and recently downloaded the most wonderful yoga app. I hope to lace up my running shoes again. I remember how good it made me feel- so why is it so hard to keep it up? For me, it can’t be about weight so that is where the systems come into play for me. If I make it about a lifestyle change, then I’m more likely to have patience with myself and more likely to succeed. I can be really harsh on myself when “getting healthy” = “losing weight”. Each time I step on the scale that damn tape starts playing in my head… Which leads us to:
*Work on learning to have grace with myself. Work on loving myself, forgiving myself, and valuing myself. Strive to believe that I truly deserve the good that comes to me and that I deserve happiness. Stop putting myself down. Stop comparing myself. Continue to live honestly.
*Make my marriage a priority. I think it’s so easy to fall into a rut of being mostly “business partners” (in the business of raising kids and running a household), occasional friends, and seldom lovers. I’d like to work on flipping that on it’s head- hell, I don’t even have a recent picture of us together! I want to laugh more together, touch more often, and remember all the wonderful reasons I love him rather than concentrate on the flaws.
So there you have it. Maybe a bit vague compared to other approaches I’ve taken, but for me I feel like I’m much more likely to succeed trying a systems based approach vs. a number based one. Don’t get me wrong, the Type A portion of me will always be planning ahead and deciding where I need to focus and what I need to prioritize. Though, knowing that if I manage to work out only 2 days instead of 3-4 because of extenuating circumstances I will still be succeeding rather than having failed will keep me happier and give me less of an excuse to throw in the towel having already “failed anyway”. After all, I am my own worst enemy. Got any similar resolutions? Let’s hear ’em!